Dissatisfaction is a negative trait that is intricately connected to our life. When we are unable to achieve our goal or if our desires are not fulfilled or things do not happen as expected then we feel dissatisfied. We are aware that dissatisfaction is the doorway to sadness and we want to live in a state of harmony i.e. in pleasure.

Satisfaction and dissatisfaction are parts of human life. But that is not the ultimate answer. Dissatisfaction is the negative feeling that results in pessimism, timidity, anxiety, nervousness, tension, etc and is basically generated from the hidden anger of our personality.

Depressed persons often feel completely lacking in energy and unable to carry out their ordinary daily chores. They may brood over long past incidents, turning their guilt endlessly on the spit of their souls or discovering special messages or significance in their present experience. Many of these incidents are in reality, minor and insignificant events. Depressed persons are found always catching other people up in the net of their own depression and blaming them for their difficulties.

So, how do we turn our dissatisfaction to our happiness? We know that we create our own happiness or unhappiness ourselves. Each one of us is actually a blend of two persona — one is negative, pessimistic, skeptical, easily tempted to fall into sloth, to denigrate other people, to be malevolent, jealous and angry, while the other is positive, having faith in life and truth, self confident, enthusiastic, benevolent and tolerant of others. So we have to develop our strong points, i.e. positive points and eliminate our weak, negative points.

In this way we will accomplish everything we set out to do. Then we will develop and exploit the whole of us, instead of using just a small part of our potential. First of all, we have to set ourselves a single, lofty goal: so difficult to attain that we have to spend our entire life trying. One example of a goal worth pursuing is the constant and complete improvement of us. With a goal like this we won’t find ourselves with nothing left to do in the near future; we will have enough work to occupy us for the rest of our life.

Our expectation should be limited and easily achievable so that achievement of such expectation satisfies us. If we expect much more than our capacity we may easily get dissatisfied and on such circumstances we may fall into depression which we know as one kind of psychological disorder. So we should try to be satisfied all the way, we are the master of our own self, nobody can help us without our self-assistance.

Dipu Mani Thakuria